Sayyidah Kabeesha Bint-e-M’an رضى الله عنها

 

Khandani Pas-e-Manzar:

 

Name Kabeesha, walid M’an Bin Asim aur khawand ka name Abu Qais Bin Aslat tha. Usay Amir Bin Jasham Anasari Ausi kay name say bhi pukara jata tha.

Zamana-e-Jahliyat mein auratein Zulam-o-Jabar ki fiza mein zindagi basar karti thein. Aurat ko insani muashray mein huqooq say yaksar mahroom kar diya gaya tha. Mardon kay han aurat ki koi izzat aur waqar tha aur na hi muashray mein un ka koi wazan samjha jata tha. Kisi muamlay mein aurat say koi raaye talab nahin ki jati thi, Yahan tak keh usay zindagi kay haq say bhi mahroom kar diya gaya tha. Lihaza jis kay han koi beti paida hoti to logon ki T’an-o-Tashnee say bachnay kay liye usay zinda dargor kar deta.

Islam nay is mazmoom aadat ko khatam kiya, Islam nay aurat ko izzat ka maqam diya aur muashray mein is haqeeqat ko ujagar kiya. Islam nay aurat ko insaf aur aazadi ki naimat say sarfaraz kiya. In naimaton say insan kay waza karda qawaneen nay aurat ko mahroom kiya huwa tha. Islam Allah Aleem-o-Khabeer ka nazil karda Nizam-e-Hayat hai, Jis ko Us nay Apni makhlooq kay liye pasand kiya, Jis nay makhlooq ko paida kiya Us say badh kar un ki zarooriyaat ko kon jan sakta hai?

 

Irshad-e-Bari T’aala hai:

 

“اَلَا يَعۡلَمُ مَنۡ خَلَقَؕ وَهُوَ اللَّطِيۡفُ الۡخَبِيۡرُ”

 

“Bhala Woh na janay ga Jis nay (sab ko) paida kiya aur Wahi Bareek Been-o-Ba’khabar hai.”

 

(Al-Mulak: 14)

 

Sayyidah Kabeesha aur un kay khawand ka islam qabool karna:

 

Sayyidah Kabeesha ka khawand Abu Qais Bin Aslat bada Faseeh-o-Baleegh shair aur pukhta’kar shehsawar tha. Unhein Sahabi honay ka sharaf hasil huwa. Unhon nay khoob achay andaz mein Islam qabool kar kay apni zindagi guzari. Unhon nay apni qoam ko Islam ki dawat dena shuru kar di aur Sayyiduna Muhammad Mustafa صلی الله عليه وسلم ki tasdeeq kay liye apni qoam ko aamada karnay lagay aur unhein yeh dawat denay lagay keh jaldi karo Un ka daman pakad lo.

Abu Qais Bin Aslat nay Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki majlis mein haziri di, Aap ki meethi meethi batein sunien to Aap kay sheerien kalam say mutassir ho kar Daira-e-Islam mein dakhil ho gaye. Yeh Zamana-e-Jahiliyat mein bhi Islam aur deegar mazaahab ka taqabuli mutalia kiya kartay thay aur Aksar-o-Beshtar Ghor-o-Fikar kartay aur haqeeqat ka idraak karnay kay liye kasrat kay sath sawal kiya kartay thay, Kiunkeh haqiqi manzil tak pohanchanay kay liye sawal ka sahara lena aur Ghor-o-Fikar karna baday muawin sabit hotay hain.

Abu Qais Yahoodi Ulama say miltay aur un kay sath yahoodiyat kay baray mein behas mubahisa kartay, Behas mubahisay mein un ka Andaz-e-Guftagoo is qadar saf shaffaaf aur Taraz-e-Istidlaal is qadar saaib hota keh yahoodi ulama bhi mutassir huaye bagher na rehtay. Woh bhi Abu Qais kay Taraz-e Istidlaal ko dekhtay huay un ki ilmi Qabiliyat-o-Salahiyat kay mutarif ho jatay.

Aik roz Abu Qais Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki khidmat mein hazir huaye aur Aap صلی الله عليه وسلم say yeh sawal kiya keh Aap kis cheez ki dawat detay hain? Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم nay nihayat tafseel kay sath islam ki mubadiyaat say aagah kiya. Woh Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم say islam ki mubadiyaat kay baray mein sun kar kehnay laga: Bohat khoob, Kitna acha yeh Nizam-e-Hayat hai, Wah wah! Qurban jayen kitna umda deen hai. Jab woh Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم say mulaqat kar kay bahir niklay to rastay mein unhein Raees-ul-Munafiqeen Abdullah Bin Ubai Ibn-e-Salool say mila. Us nay kaha: Aye Abu Qais! Tum hamaray giroh say nikal gaye, Ab tum kabhi quraish kay sath dostana talluqat qaaim kartay ho aur kabhi Muhammad (صلی الله عليه وسلم) kay pichay chaltay ho. Yeh tum nay kya tareeqa apna rakha hai!?

Abu Qais nay barjasta kaha! Aye aqal kay andhay! Mein to Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki ittiba ko Dil-o-Jan say bhi zayada azeez samajhta hoon aur sari zindagi isi rah par gamzan rahoon ga.

 

(Tabqaat Ibn-e-Saad (4/385) Al-Isaabah (3/388))

 

Yeh zaroori tha keh Abu Qais jesay aqalmand, Aalim fazil ko Shareek-e-Hayat bhi us kay mayar kay mutabiq muyassar aaye to Shareek-e-Hayat bananay kay liye us ki Nazar-e-Intikhab Sayyidah Kabeesha par padi. Sayyidah Kabeesha nay bhi mawafiqat ka rawayya apnaya. Woh islam qabool kar chuki thein aur islami usoolon par badi diljamai kay say amal pera thein.

 

Khawand aur betay kay sath hamdardi aur shafqat ka rawayya:

 

Miyan biwi nay bahami mahabbat aur muwafqat say zindagi basar ki, Donon tangi aur khush’hali mein yakjan ho kar rahay aur un kay darmiyan kabhi kisi bat par koi jhagda nahin huwa. Abu Qais nay aik say zaaid shadiyan kein, Lekin un kay han siraf aik beta huwa, Us betay ki walida foat hoi jabkeh yeh abhi baligh nahin huwa tha.

Us kay bad Abu Qais nay Kabeesha kay sath shadi ki, Jab yeh mubarak shadi ho gai. Sayyidah Kabeesha Rishta-e-Azdwaj mein munsalik ho kar apnay khawand kay ghar aabad ho gai to pehli biwi kay Ahal-e-Khana aa gaye aur unhon nay yeh mutalba kar diya keh beta hamaray supard kiya jaye, Yeh hamaray sath rahay ga. Abu Qais nay beta un kay supard karnay say inkar kar diya aur kaha keh yeh mera beta meri nigrani mein hi parwarish paye ga. Un logon nay kaha keh ham is sharat par betay kay yahan rehnay par razi hon gay keh teri yeh nai biwi Kabeesha is ki nigehdashat is tarah karay jis tarah yeh us ka apna beta hai.

Unhon nay wada kiya keh betay ki nihayat umdah andaz mein nigehdashat ho gi. Jab qoam nay yeh dekha keh us ki nai biwi Kabeesha betay ki waqai umdah andaz mein parwarish kar rahi hai to sab hi log bohat khush huaye.

Abu Qais nay dekha keh us ki biwi Kabeesha betay ki bohat achay andaz mein nigehdashat kar rahi hai aur us kay sath nihayat hi achay sulook say pesh aa rahi hai to us kay dil mein apni biwi ki chahat mein aur zayada izafa ho gaya.

Donon miyan biwi nay betay kay sath kai sal athkheliyan kartay huaye hanasi khushi guzar diye. Donon nay khushgawar mahool mein Shab-o-Roz basar kiye. Phir Abu Qais bimar ho kar bistar par lait gaye, Is dauran mein un ki biwi Kabeesha un kay liye aik behtareen teemardar sabit hui. Unhon nay apnay khawand Abu Qais ki shifayabi kay liye aik mahir aur tajurba’kar naras kay faraaiz sar’anjam diye. Unhon nay apnay khawand ki takleef ko kam karnay kay liye har mumkin koshish ki aur apni tamam tar tawanaiyan saraf kar dein. Unhon nay khawand kay haq mein Allah T’aala kay huzoor gidgida kar duaein bhi kein, Taakeh Allah T’aala unhein shifa say hamkanar kar day. Lekin moat ka waqat jab qareeb aa jata hai to sab tadbeerein dhari ki dhari reh jati hain. Abu Qais ka is Duniya-e-Fani kooch karnay ka waqat qareeb aa gaya.

Jab Sayyiduna Abu Qais رضى الله عنه ko yaqeen ho gaya keh chal chalao ka waqat aa chuka hai, Ab meray zinda rehnay ki koi umeed nahin to unhon nay apni biwi Kabeesha ko wasiyat ki keh meray betay ka khayal rakhna, Us kay sath Husan-e-Sulook say paish aana, Dekhna! Us ko koi takleef na honay paye, Woh kisi mahroomi ka shikar na ho. Woh abhi no’khez hai, baldi umar hai, Usay teri nigehdashat ki ashad zaroorat hai. Jab tak woh aik tajurba’kar shakhsiyat ka roop na dharay, Us waqat tak har tarah say us ka khayal rakhna. Kabeesha nay apnay khawand ko itminan dilaya keh har tarah say us ka khayal rakhon gi. Aap mutmein rahein, Mein us ko haqiqi man jesa peyar doon gi aur usi buniyad par us ki nigehdashat karon gi.

Is alwidaai guftagoo kay thodi hi deer bad Abu Qais Qaza-e-Ilaji say wafat pa kar apnay Khaliq-e-Haqiqi say ja milay aur Kabeesha apnay khawand kay sath tay panay walay muahiday kay mutabiq us kay betay ki nigehdashat nihayat hi ahsan andaz mein karnay ki taraf matwajjah huien. Jab bachay ka baap foat ho gaya to unhon nay pehlay say zayada us kay sath mahabbat aur shafqat say pesh aana shuru kar diya.

 

Zamana-e-Jahiliyat kay Rasam-o-Rawaj ki talwaar:

 

Kabeesha رضى الله عنها ko apnay misali khawand Abu Qais kay wafat pa janay say Naqabil-e-Talafi nuqsan huwa. Lekin is kay bawjood un ki Imaan kay sath gehri wabastagi aur islami Faham-o-Farasat nay unhein Sabar-e-Jameel ka rawayya ikhtiyar karnay par majboor kiya.

Kabeesha رضى الله عنها khawand kay foat ho janay ki bina par Afsurda-o-Dil’garifta thein keh un kay marhoom shohar kay rishtadar mulaqat kay liye aa gaye. Unhon nay unhein khush aamdeed kaha, Kiunkeh woh mahboob shohar kay rishtadar thay. Un ki Izzat-o-Takreem karna un par wajib tha, Yeh un ki taraf say apnay wafadar shohar kay ahtiram ka taqaza bhi tha keh us kay rishtadaron kay sath khush’dili kay sath pesh aaye. Lekin Kabeesha رضى الله عنها kay dil mein Shak-o-Shubah paida huwa jis ki bina par woh muztarib ho gaien, Woh is nuktay par Ghor-o-Khoz karnay lagein keh rishtadaron ki aamad ka haqiqi sabab maloom kar sakay. Thodi hi der bad unki aamad ka bhed zahir ho gaya. Un kay dilon mein chupi hui khawahish wazeh ho gai, Unhon nay siyah rang ki chadar Kabeesha رضى الله عنها par dal di. Woh us siyah chadar mein chup gaien, Woh yeh manzar dekh kar Angashat-e-Ba’dandan reh gai aur sochanay lagi keh yeh kya majrah hai? Mujh par siyah rang ki chadar dalnay ka aakhir matlab kya hai?

Yeh log kya chahtay hain? In ka asal maqsad kya hai?

Yeh dar’asal Zamana-e-Jahliyat ki aik nihayat ghatiya aadat thi. Nihayat na’pasandeeda harkat thi, Bada hi ghinaona amal tha, Zamana-e-Jahiliyat mein bewa par siyah rang ki chadar dalnay kay do maqsad huwa kartay thay. Aik yeh keh yeh apnay khawand ki wirasat say mahroom ho chuki hai. Us kay choday huaye maal mein kisi cheez par is ka koi haq nahin aur doosara maqsad yeh hota keh ab yeh aurat apnay khawand kay ghar say bahir nahin ja sakti aur na hi apnay khawand kay ahal kay ilawa kisi aur say shadi kar sakti hai.

Qissa mukhtasar Zamana-e-Jahiliyat mein log aurat ko ghar kay deegar Saz-o-Saman ki tarah gardantay thay. Woh samajhtay thay keh aurat ko koi raaye denay ka haq hai aur na hi us kay ahsasaat ki koi Qadar-o-Qeemat hai. Lekin islam is ghatiya qisam kay Rasam-o-Rawaj ko pasand nahin karta aur na kisi ko aisa rawayya ikhtiyar karnay ki ijazat hi deta hai. Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها ghar mein nazar’band ho kar reh gaien aur na’pasandeeda noiyat ki siyah chadar mein ulajh kar reh gaien, Na jaye mandan na paye raftan.

Dil kay phaphoolay jal uthay seenay kay dagh say

Is ghar ko aag lag gai ghar kay chiragh say.

Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها nay apnay dil say pocha keh jis deen ki peerookar hoon kya woh deen is qabeeh Rasam-o-Rawaj ko pasand karta hai. Woh is haqeeqat ko janti thein keh Deen-e-Islam to Adal-o-Insaf ka alambardar hai, Woh to is qisam kay na’rawa zulam ki ijazat nahin deta, Kya Deen-e-Islam is qisam ki ghinaoni harkat ko qabool karnay ki ijazat day ga? Kya Allah kay Rasool صلی الله عليه وسلم is ki ijazat dein gay keh islam kay aangan mein Zamana-e-Jahiliyat kay Rasam-o-Rawaj ka amal dakhal ho?

Hargiz aisa nahin ho sakta! Islam kay ghanay saye talay khardar bootiyon ka kya kaam…..?

Kya islam is zalmana rawayye ki ijazat day ga keh aurat ki ahmiyat ko yaksar pamal kar kay rakh diya jaye? Islam Adal-o-Insaf, Izzat-o-Ahtiram aur Haq-o-Sadaqat par mabni Nazriya-e-Hayat hai, Woh muashray say zulam, Jahalat aur zillat ko mitanay kay liye aaya hai. Islam kay hotay huaye yeh muhal hai keh aurat ko nikah karnay say roka ja sakay aur isay kisi aisay shakhas kay sath shadi karnay par majboor kiya jaye jis kay sath woh shadi nahin karna chahti. Jisay woh dili tor par na’pasand karti hai, Us kay sath zindagi guzarnay par majboor karna sarasar us bechari par zulam hai jisay islam pasand nahin karta. Is na’gufta bah Soorat-e-Haal mein Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها nay Allah T’aala kay farman kay mutabiq sabar aur namaz ko sahara bananay ka rawayya ikhtiyar kiya. Unhon nay Allah T’aala ki bargah mein dua ki keh Woh us ko is museebat say chutkara ata kar day aur is aazmaish ki ghadi say surkharoo kar kay nikalay. Us ki Kamzori-o-Na’tawani par raham khaye. Un kay zehan mein yeh bat aai keh woh apni yeh bipta Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ko sunaye, Is maqsad kay liye woh Aap صلی الله عليه وسلم ki khidmat mein pesh huien, Un kay Pesh-e-Nazar yeh tha keh Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم is museebat say chutkaray ka koi hal nikalein gay, Ya Allah سبحانه و تعالى say faryad karein gay keh Woh is uljhan ki koi suljhan bataein aur is ghutan ko kushadgi aur farakhi say badal day. Is say un tamam khawateen ko faida ho ga jo is qisam kay halaat say do’char hain aur woh is noiyat kay halaat mein gonagoon Mushkilat-o-Masaaib ka shikar hain.

Abu Qais kay ghar walon nay us betay say kaha keh tum apnay baap ki biwi kay sath nikah kar lo, Jab us nay Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها kay sath apnay nikah ki baat ki to unhon nay kaha: Mein nay tujhay apna beta samajh kar teri parwarish ki hai, Tum apnay khandan mein sab say behtar nojawan ho, Lekin mein Deen-e-Islam ki perookar hoon, Mein is silsilay mein Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم say mashwara karon gi keh is hawalay say Deen-e-Islam ka kya hukum hai ? Is tarah Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها ka apnay ghar say bahir jana mumkin huwa.

 

Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها ka Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki khidmat mein shikwah:

 

Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها nay Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki khidmat mein hazir ho kar araz kiya: Aye Allah kay Rasool صلی الله عليه وسلم! Mera khawand Abu Qais foat ho gaya hai, Us ka beta Qais apni qoam ka bohat behtar shakhas hai, Us nay meray sath nikah karnay ki khawahish ka izhar kiya hai. Mein nay us say kaha keh mein nay to apna beta samajh kar teri parwarish ki hai, Mein Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم say poochon gi keh meray liye sharai kya hukum hai? Mein Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم say poochay bagher is silsilay mein kuch nahin keh sakti.

 

Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم nay meri bat ko ghor say sun kar farmaya:

 

“اقعدى فى بيتك حتى ياتى فيك امرالله”

 

“Tum apnay ghar mein betho yahan tak keh teray baray mein Allah T’aala ka hukum aa jaye.”

 

Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم say mulaqat karnay aur Aap ko apni bipta sunanay kay bad wapis ghar is umeed say aaien keh Allah T’aala is ghutan ka koi hal aur is uljhan ki koi suljhan zaroor nikalein gay, Kiunkeh Allah T’aala us ka Rab hai, Woh zulam ko pasand nahin karta.

Tamam logon ko yeh pata chal gaya keh Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki khidmat mein hazir huien aur Aap ko ghareloo halaat say aagah kiya hai. Madinah Munawwrah mein kuch aur khawateen bhi is noiyat ki Soorat-e-Haal say do’char thein. Woh bhi Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki khidmat mein hazir ho kar apni shikayat pesh karnay lagein. Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم nay sab khawateen ko wahi jawab diya jo is say pehlay Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها ko diya tha. Sab khawateen say yahi kaha keh tum apnay gharon mein beth kar aasmani jawab ka intazar karo.

 

Islam ka aadlana fesla:

 

Allah T’aala nay Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki khidmat mein hazir ho kar apni bipta sunanay wali auraton ki aamad ko be’wuqat nahin honay diya, Balkeh un kay uljhay huaye muamlay ko suljhanay kay liye Quraani aayaat ko nazil kiya. Islam nay tamam zaalimaana Rasam-o-Rawaj aur na’pasandeeda Aadaat-o-Atwaar ko manasookh kar diya. Sayyiduna Jibreel عليه السلام Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki taraf yeh khushkhabri lay kar aaye. Irshad-e-Bari T’aala hai:

 

“يٰۤـاَيُّهَا الَّذِيۡنَ اٰمَنُوۡا لَا يَحِلُّ لَـكُمۡ اَنۡ تَرِثُوا النِّسَآءَ كَرۡهًا‌ ؕ وَلَا تَعۡضُلُوۡهُنَّ لِتَذۡهَبُوۡا بِبَعۡضِ مَاۤ اٰتَيۡتُمُوۡهُنَّ اِلَّاۤ اَنۡ يَّاۡتِيۡنَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ‌ ۚ وَعَاشِرُوۡهُنَّ بِالۡمَعۡرُوۡفِ‌ ۚ فَاِنۡ كَرِهۡتُمُوۡهُنَّ فَعَسٰۤى اَنۡ تَكۡرَهُوۡا شَيۡـئًـا وَّيَجۡعَلَ اللّٰهُ فِيۡهِ خَيۡرًا كَثِيۡرًا ۞”

 

(Al-Nisa: 4/ 19)

 

“Aye logo jo Imaan laye ho! Tumharay liye yeh halaal nahin keh auraton kay zabardasti waris ban betho aur na yeh halaal hai keh unhein tang kar kay us mahar ka kuch hissa uda lo jo tum un ko day chukay ho, Han agar woh kisi wazeh bad’chalni ki murtakib hon (to tumhein tang karnay ka haq hai) un kay sath bhalay tareeqay say zindagi basar karo aur agar woh tumhein na’pasand hon to ho sakta hai keh aik cheez tumhein pasand na ho magar Allah nay us mein bohat kuch bhalai rakh di ho. “

 

Aur is kay bad daraj zeel aayat ki tilawat ki:

 

“وَلَا تَنۡكِحُوۡا مَا نَكَحَ اٰبَآؤُكُمۡ مِّنَ النِّسَآءِ اِلَّا مَا قَدۡ سَلَفَ‌ ؕ اِنَّهٗ كَانَ فَاحِشَةً وَّمَقۡتًا ؕ وَسَآءَ سَبِيۡلًا ۞”

 

(Al-Nisaa: 4/ 22)

 

“Jin auraton say tumharay baap nikah kar chukay hon un say hargiz nikah na karo, Magar jo ho chuka so ho chuka aur haqeeqat mein yeh aik be’hayai ka fael aur na’pasandeeda aur bura chalan hai.”

 

(Sunan Kubra Nasaai (11095) mukhtasiran. Al-Isaabah (3/388) Tafseer Tabri (3/646-659) Tafseer Ibn-e-Kaseer (1/617))

 

Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم nay Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها aur us ki momin behnon ki janib pegham bheja jo Rasoolullah صلی الله عليه وسلم ki khidmat mein isi noiyat ki shikayat lay kar hazir hui thein, Jis shikayat ka izhar Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها nay kiya tha. Un sab ko Allah T’aala kay Adal-o-Insaaf par mabni hukum say aagah kiya aur unhein yeh sandeesah diya keh tum har qisam kay Zulam-o-Sitam say aazad ho, Jo Zamana-e-Jahiliyat mein tum par rawa rakha jata tha.

 

Allah سبحانه وتعالى nay sach farmaya:

 

“مَا فَرَّطۡنَا فِى الۡـكِتٰبِ مِنۡ شَىۡءٍ‌ ثُمَّ اِلٰى رَبِّهِمۡ يُحۡشَرُوۡنَ ۞”

 

“Ham nay unki taqdeer kay noshtay mein koi kasar na chodi hai, Phir yeh sab apnay Rab ki taraf lotaye jayen gay.”

 

(Al-Anaam: 6/38)

 

Han! Han! Allah ki kitab Quraan Majeed aur us ki wazahat karnay wali Sunnat-e-Rasool صلی الله عليه وسلم mein aisay ahkamaat bayan kiye gaye jin par amal peera ho kar insan Adal-o-Insaf, Izzat aur waqar kay sath zindagi basar kar sakta hai aur Zulam-o-Sitam ka nishana ban’nay say bach sakta hai.

Allah سبحانه و تعالى Momin-o-Wafadar Sayyidah Kabeesha رضى الله عنها par Apni rahmat ki barkha barsaye, Unki nihayat ahsan andaz mein mehman nawazi karay aur unhein Apni raza say nawazay. Aameen Ya Rabb-ul-Aalameen!

 

Reference:

 Book: Hayat-e-Sahaabiyaat kay Darakhshah pahelo.

Taleef: Mahmood T’ama Halbi

Mutarjim: Abu Ziya Mehmood Ahmad Ghaznofar Hafizahullah.