24. MOHABBAT KI AQSAAM [Types of Love]
MOHABBAT KI AQSAAM
Mohabbat ki (4) chaar aqsaam hain:
1. Wo Mohabbat jo keh ibadat hai:
(i) yani Allah Ta’aala ki mohabbat.
(ii) Aur is cheez ki mohabbat jis se Allah Ta’aala mohabbat karte ho.
Iski daleel Allah Ta’aala ka ye farmaan hai:
وَالَّذِیْنَ آمَنُوْا أَشَدُّ حُبًّا لِّلّٰہِ
“Lekin Ahl-e-Emaan tou Allah Ta’aala se sab se ziada mohabbat karte hain.”
[SURAH BAQARAH: 02:65]
2. Wo Mohabbat jo shirk hai:
Yani ya’zeem aur tazleel ke saath ghair Allah se aisi mohabbat karna jis tarah ki mohabbat karna sirf Allah Ta’aala ke liye hi rawah hai.
Iski daleel Allah Ta’aala ka yeh farmaan hai:
وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَنْ یَّتَّخِذُ مِنْ دُوْنِ اللّٰہِ أَنْدَاداً یُحِبُّوْنَہُمْ کَحُبِّ اللّٰہِ
“Aur ba’az log aise hain jo ghair Allah ko (Allah ka) shareek banate hain aur un se Allah ki si mohabbat karte hain.”
[SURAH BAQARAH: 02:165]
3. Wo mohabbat jo gunah ka kaam hai:
Jese keh gunah, nid’at aur haraam cheezon ki mohabbat- iski daleel ye farmaan-e-Ilaahi hai:
اِنَّ الَّذِیْنَ یُحِبُّوْنَ اَنْ تَشِیْعَ الْفَاحِشَۃُ فِی الَّذِیْنَ اٰمَنُوْا لَہُمْ عَذَابٌ اَلِیْمٌ فِی الدُّنْیَا وَالْآخِرَۃِ وَاللّٰہُ یَعْلَمُ وَاَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُوْنَ
“Beshak jo log pasand karte hain keh un logon mein be-hayaee phelay jo emaan laey hain unke liye duniya aur akhirat mein dardnaak azab hai aur Allah janta hai tum nahi jante.”
[SURAH NUR:24: 19]
4. TABI’ MOHABBAT:
Jese keh apni oulad aur Ahl o a’yyal ki apni zaat ki mohabbat; ye sab jayez hai- iski daleel ye Allah Ta’aala ka farmaan e giraami hai:
زُیِّنَ لِلنَّا سِ حُبُّ الشَّہَوٰتِ مِنَ النِّسَآئِ وَالْبَنِیْنَ وَ الْقَنَاطِیْرِ الْمُقَنْطَرَۃِ مِنَ الذَّہَبِ وَ الْفِضَّۃِ وَ الْخَیْلِ الْمَسَوَّمَۃِ وَ الْاَنْعَامِ وَ الْحَرْثِ ذٰلِکَ مَتَاعُ الْحَیٰوۃِ الدُّنْیَا وَ اللّٰہُ عَنْدَہٗ حُسْنُ الْمَاٰبِ
“Logon ke liye nafsaani khawahish ki mohabbat mazayyan ki gae hai jo aurten aur bete aur sone aur chandi ke jama’ kiye hue khazaane aur nishaan zadah ghore aur mawaishi aur kheti ki surat mein hai; yeh duniya ki zindagi ka samaan hai aur Allah hi ke paas achha thikaana hai.”
[SURAH ALE IMRAAN:03: 140]
REFERENCE:
KITAAB “TAWHEED MUYASSAR” / ASAAN TAWHEED
BY: “ABDULLAH BIN AHMAD AL HAWAIL”
TYPES OF LOVE
Love may be divided into mahabbah khaassah (specific love) and mahabbah mushtarakah (general love).
Mahabbah khaassah (specific love):
Specific love may be divided into types that are halaal and types that are haraam.
Halaal love includes:
(1) Love of Allah,
It is the most important obligation, as it is the basis of Islam. By perfecting ones love of Allaah, one perfects ones faith. If ones love of Allaah is lacking, then ones Tawheed is also lacking. The daleel (evidence) for this is the aayaat (interpretation of the meaning):
”But those who believe, love Allaah more (than anything else) ”
[al-Baqarah 2:165]
”Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwellings in which you delight . . . are dearer to you than Allaah and His Messenger, and striving hard and fighting in His cause, then wait until Allaah brings about His Decision (torment). And Allaah guides not the people who are faasiqoon (rebellious, disobedient). ”
[al-Tawbah 9:24]
There are also other similar proofs in the Quran and Sunnah.
Love of Allaah may also take the form of preferring what Allaah loves and wants of His slave to what the slave himself might love and want. So he loves what Allaah loves, hates what He hates, takes as friends or regards as enemies for His sake, and adheres to His laws. There is much that may strengthen this love.
(2) Love of Allah’s Messenger,
It is also one of the most important duties of Islaam. Indeed, faith is not complete until a person loves the Messenger of Allaah more than he loves himself, as in the ahaadeeth:
The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said:
None of you truly believes until I am more beloved to him than his child, his father and all the people.
(Reported by Muslim, no. 44).
Abdullaah ibn Hishaam said:
”We were with the Prophet (peace be upon him), and he was holding the hand of Umar ibn al-Khattaab. Umar said to him: O Messenger of Allaah, you are dearer to me than everything except my own self. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: No (that is not right), by the One in Whose hand is my soul, until I am dearer to you than your own self. Umar said to him, Now, by Allaah, you are dearer to me than my own self. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: Now (you are right), O Umar. ”
(Reported by al-Bukhaari, no. 6632)
This love is part of loving Allah and is manifested by following the Prophet (peace be upon him) and preferring his opinion over that of others.
(3) Love of the Prophets and the believers.
This is obligatory because loving Allaah dictates that one should love the people who obey Him, in other words the Prophets and righteous people. The daleel (evidence) for this is the hadeeth Whoever loves for the sake of Allaah (i.e., loves the people of faith for the sake of Allaah). Obedience to Allaah is based on love of Allaah. Faith cannot be perfected except in this way, even if one has a lot of prayer and fasting to ones credit. As Umar ibn al-Khattaab said:
”You have seen us at the time of the Messenger of Allaah: none of us would think that he had more right to his own money than his Muslim brother.”
Forbidden love:
This includes love which constitutes shirk, which is when a person loves something instead of Allah or as much as Him. In such a case he has taken that thing as a rival to Allah. This is the shirk of love, and most people have taken things as rivals to Allah in love and glorification.
There are also types of forbidden love which do not go to the extent of shirk, such as loving ones family, wealth, tribe, business or house, and preferring those things, in whole or in part, over doing the duties that Allaah requires of him, such as hijrah (migration for His sake), jihaad, etc.
The daleel (evidence) for this is the aayah quoted above:
”Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwellings in which you delight . . . are dearer to you than Allaah and His Messenger, and striving hard and fighting in His cause, then wait until Allaah brings about His Decision (torment).”
[al-Tawbah 9:24])
Mahabbah mushtarakah (general love):
General love is of three types:
(1) Natural love,
Such as the love of a hungry person for food, or a thirsty person for water. This does not involve any kind of glorification, so it is permissible.
(2) Love based on mercy and pity,
Such as the love of a father for his small child. This also involves no kind of glorification, so there is nothing wrong with it.
(3) Love based on acquaintance and friendship,
Such as that between those who share a common profession, or scholars in the same field, or people one meets on a daily basis (such as fellow-commuters), or people one does business with, or travelling-companions. This type of appropriate love between people, or brotherly love, does not imply shirk or associating anyone else in ones love for Allaah.
REFERENCE:
https://islamqa.info/en/answers/276/anwaa145-al-mahabbah-types-of-loving-and-the-ruling-concerning-them
محبت کی اقسام
محبت کی چار اقسام ہیں :
ا۔ وہ محبت جو کہ عبادت ہے :
۔ یعنی اللہ تعالیٰ کی محبت
۔ اور اس چیز کی محبت جس سے اللہ تعالیٰ محبت کرتے ہوں۔
اس کی دلیل اللہ تعالیٰ کا یہ فرمان ہے:
وَالَّذِیْنَ آمَنُوْا أَشَدُّ حُبًّا لِّلّٰہِ
’’ لیکن اہل ایمان تو اللہ تعالیٰ سے سب سے زیادہ محبت کرتے ہیں۔‘‘
[البقرۃ:۶۵]
ب: وہ محبت جوشرک ہے
یعنی تعظیم اور تذلل کے ساتھ غیر اللہ سے ایسی محبت کرنا جس طرح کی محبت کرنا صرف اللہ تعالیٰ کے لیے ہی رواہے۔
اس کی دلیل اللہ تعالیٰ کا یہ فرمان ہے :
وَمِنَ النَّاسِ مَنْ یَّتَّخِذُ مِنْ دُوْنِ اللّٰہِ أَنْدَاداً یُحِبُّوْنَہُمْ کَحُبِّ اللّٰہِ
’’ اور بعض لوگ ایسے ہیں جو غیر اللہ کو(اللہ کا)شریک بناتے ہیں اور ان سے اللہ کی سی محبت کرتے ہیں۔‘‘
[البقرۃ:۱۶۵]
ج: وہ محبت جو گناہ کاکام ہے
:جیسا کہ گناہ، بدعات اور حرام چیزوں کی محبت۔
اس کی دلیل یہ فرمان الٰہی ہے :
اِنَّ الَّذِیْنَ یُحِبُّوْنَ اَنْ تَشِیْعَ الْفَاحِشَۃُ فِی الَّذِیْنَ اٰمَنُوْا لَہُمْ عَذَابٌ اَلِیْمٌ فِی الدُّنْیَا وَالْآخِرَۃِ وَاللّٰہُ یَعْلَمُ وَاَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُوْنَ
بے شک جو لوگ پسند کرتے ہیں کہ ان لوگوں میں بے حیائی پھیلے جو ایمان لائے ہیں ان کیلئے دنیا اور آخرت میں دردناک عذاب ہے اور اللہ جانتا ہے تم نہیں جانتے۔
[النور:۱۹]
د: طبعی محبت
جیسا کہ اپنی اولاد اور اہل و عیال کی اپنی ذات کی محبت ؛ یہ سب جائزہے۔
اس کی دلیل اللہ تعالیٰ کا یہ فرمان گرامی ہے :
زُیِّنَ لِلنَّا سِ حُبُّ الشَّہَوٰتِ مِنَ النِّسَآئِ وَالْبَنِیْنَ وَ الْقَنَاطِیْرِ الْمُقَنْطَرَۃِ مِنَ الذَّہَبِ وَ الْفِضَّۃِ وَ الْخَیْلِ الْمَسَوَّمَۃِ وَ الْاَنْعَامِ وَ الْحَرْثِ ذٰلِکَ مَتَاعُ الْحَیٰوۃِ الدُّنْیَا وَ اللّٰہُ عَنْدَہٗ حُسْنُ الْمَاٰبِ
’’لوگوں کے لئے نفسانی خواہش کی محبت مزین کی گئی ہے جو عورتیں اور بیٹے اور سونے اور چاندی کے جمع کیے ہوئے خزانے اور نشان زدہ گھوڑے اور مویشی اور کھیتی کی صورت میں ہے؛یہ دنیا کی زندگی کا سامان ہے اور اللہ ہی کے پاس اچھا ٹھکانا ہے۔‘‘
[آل عمران:۱۴]
REFERENCE:
KITAAB “TAWHEED MUYASSAR” / ASAAN TAWHEED
BY: “ABDULLAH BIN AHMAD AL HAWAIL”