*LARKIYON KE LIYE PARDA KA HUKAM*

Walidain ke liye zaroori hai keh apnay larkoon ko ghair mehram aurton ki taraf nazar daalnay se rokain, aur larkiyon ko namehram mardon se parda karnay ka hukam dein, is liye keh fitri tor par mardon mein aurton ke liye raghbat rakhi gayi hai, jab woh be parda aurat ka uryaan jism daikhta hai to shehwat aur raghbat ko poora karnay ke liye is ki taraf lapakta hai, aaj kal ke akhbarat is baat par gawah hain keh kis tarhan mard be parda saali, bhabhi, hamsahi aur ajnabi aurat ke sath buray kaam mein mulawis hotay hain, parda ke muta’alliq mashhoor islami askalr, Muhaddas aur seerat nigaar, ustaaz mohtaram Molana Safi Al Rehman Sahib Mubarakpoori Hifza Allah farmatay hain:

Aurat ke liye parda islami shariat ka aik wazeh hukam hai, aur is ka maqsad bhi bilkul wazeh hai, islam ne insani fitrat ke ain mutabiq yeh faisla kya hai keh aurat aur mard ke taluqaat pakizagi, safai aur zimmadaari ki bunyaad par ustuwar hon aur is mein kahin koi khalal dar nah anay paye, isi liye is ne zina aur is ke asbaab o dawai par mukammal qadghan lagai hai, kyunkay yeh takmeel khwahisaat ka khalis hewani zareya hai, jis mein taharat aur zimma daari ki adna si bhi jhalak mojood nahi, balkay yeh jismani aur rohani afaat ka sir chashma hai.

Islam ne is buraie ke sad baab ke liye teen tadbeerein ikhtiyar ki hain:

 

1. Rabbani irshad o hidaayat aur nabwi waaz o tazkeer: is ka bayan kitaab Allah ki ayaat aur Sunnat RasoolAllah (ﷺ) ke mukhtalif abwab mein nihayat muaser aur naleegh andaaz mein mojood hai, kahin Iffat o asmat par behtareen ajar o inaam ka zikar hai to kahin fahash kaari par waeed shadeed.

 

2. Hudood aur sazayen: jis ke tehat ghair shadi shuda zaani ko so korray maarny aur shadi shuda zaani ko sangsar karnay ka intehai shadeed tareen hukam hai.

Ghair mehram mard o aurat ki aik doosray se mukammal alahedagi aur un ke bahami ikhtilaat par do toak pabandi.

Is pabandi ka hissa yeh hai keh agar aurat ko ghar se bahar niklana aur ajnabi mardon ke samnay se guzrna parray to woh parda kar lay.

Paish lafz: musalman aurat ka parda aur libaas )

 

Parda ka hukam 5 hijri mein nazil hua jab keh RasoolAllah (ﷺ) ne Hazrat Zainab Bint Hajash (رضی اللہ عنہا) se nikah kya tha, Nabi (ﷺ) ne is waqt parda latka diya aur Hazrat Aans Bin Maalik (رضی اللہ عنہ) ko jo is se pehlay be dharak Aap (ﷺ) ke ghar mein atay jatay thay, Aap ne inhen bilaa ijazat daakhil honay se mana kar diya, is moqa par nazil honay wali aayat yeh thi:

﴿ وَ إِذَا سَأَلْتُمُوهُنَّ مَتَاعًا فَاسْتَلُوهُنَّ مِنْ وَرَاءِ حِجَاب ) in jab ( أمهات المومنین )

 

“Se koi cheez mango to parday ki oot se mango”

 

 

(صحیح بخارى : كتاب التفسير : باب لاتدخلوا بيوت النبي إلا ان يؤذن لكم . صحيح مسلم : كتاب النکاح باب زواج زينب بنت جحش )

Nazar baazi zina kaari ka paish khaima hai, is liye islam ne sab se pehlay is par pabandi lagai aur mard aur aurat dono ko yeh hukam diya keh woh apni nazrain pust rakhen aur apni

 

Izzat ki hifazat karein:

﴿ قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَلِكَ أَزْكَى لَهُمْ ﴾ ( نور : 30 )

Aap musalman mardon se keh dein keh woh apni nigehain neechi rakhein aur apni sharam gaahon ki hifazat karein.

 

Aur bilkul yahi hukam aurton ko bhi diya gaya:

 

﴿ قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَعْضُضُنَ مِنْ اَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ ﴾ ( نور : 31 )

 

Aap musalman aurton se keh den keh woh apni nigehain neechi rakhein aur apni asmton ki hifazat karein.

 

 

Yeh hukam is baat ka ghammaz hai keh nazar ki be ahteyati ka asmton ki pamali se choli daman ka rishta hai, isi liye hakeem o khaibar Allah Ta’alaa ne ghaz Basar ke sath is ka faida bhi zikar kar diya keh is se asmton ki hifazat hoti hai.

Mard ki nigah hawasnaak hoti hi hai, is liye usay mana kya gaya keh woh aurton ki taraf ghour ghour kar dekhay, achanak parney wali nigah ke muta’alliq farmaaya:

: یا علی ! لا تتبع النظرة النظرة ، فإن الأولى لك والآخرة علیک ( ترندی: حدیث نمبر 2777 ۔ دارمی ۔ مستدرک حاکم ۔ صحیح علی شرط مسلم )

“Aey Ali! nazar par nazar nah daalo, is liye keh pehli nazar to tumahray liye ( maaf ) hai aur doosri tum par ( gunah ) hai”.

 

 

Bakol shayar: “is bargaah husan mein lazim hai ahthyat pehli nazar to maaf hai doosri magar haraam”

Lekin aurat ki nigah bhi kuch kam qayamat nahi dhaati, bilkhushoos woh nigah jo tirchi ho, knkhyon se dekhi jaye, sharmeeli ho, aur sharaab ki si masti liye hue neem baz ho, aisi nigehain khulay tor par burai ki dawat deti hain, isi liye RasoolAllah (ﷺ) ne

“العينان تزنيان وزناهما النظر ، والقلب يشتهى ويتمنى والفرج يصدق ذلك أو يكذبه ،، ( رواہ مسلم )

farmaaya:

“Aankhein zina karti hain aur un ka zina dekhna hai, dil khwahish aur tamanna karta hai aur sharam gaah is ki tasdeeq karti hai ya takzeeb”.

Matlab yeh keh aankhon ke rastay se jo khoob soorat tasweer mard ke dil mein utarti hai, dil is ke liye machalnay lagta hai, dimagh is ke liye sazishain karta hai, aakhir mein sharam gaah ki baari aati hai agar woh is mein kamyaab ho gaya to, jo zina ab tak majazi tha woh haqeeqi roop dhaar laita hai, agar woh is burai ke karnay mein nakaam hota hai to phir yeh zina majazi hi rehta hai haqeeqi nahi hota.

Aurton ke liye hukam diya gaya:

قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنَاتِ يَعْضُضُنَ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَى جُيُوبِهِنَّ من وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَائِهِنَّ أَوْ آبَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَ بُنَا لِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَاءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي إِخْوَانِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِي أَخَوَاتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَائِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُهُنَّ أَوِ التَّابِعِينَ غَيْرَ أُولِي الْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ أَوِ الطِّفْلِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا عَلَى عَوْرَاتِ النِّسَاءِ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِنْ زِينَتِهِنَّ وَتُوبُوا إِلَى اللهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَا المُو مِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ ) (نور: 31)

“Aap musalman aurton se keh den keh woh apni nigehain neechi rakhein aur apni asmton ki hifazat karein aur apna banaao singhar nah deikhein magar woh jo khud bakhud zahir ho jaye, aur apnay seeno par apni orhnion ke aanchal dalay Rakhein, aur apna banaao singaar un logon ke siwa kisi par zahir nah karein:

Shohar, baap, shoharon ke baap, apnay betay, shoharon ke betay, bhai, bhaiyon ke betay, behnoon ke betay, apnay mil jol ki aurtain, apnay londi ghulam, woh matehat mard jo shehwat nahi rakhtay, aur woh bachay jo abhi aurton ki posheeda baton se waaqif nahi hain, woh apnay paon zameen par martii hui nah chala karein taakeh is zeenat ka logon ko pata chalay jo woh chhupa rakhi hain, Aey momino tum sab mil kar Allah Ta’alaa ki janab mein tobah karo, tawaqqa hai keh tum Falah pao gay.

Un ayaat mein mehram se parda ki rukhsat di gayi hai, mehram mein aisay tamam rishta daar shaamil hain jin se aurat ka nikah daimi ya earzi haraam hai, aur woh yeh hain:

“Baap. is mein Dada, Nana, pardada, parNana aur susar shaamil hain.

Haqeeqi betay. is mein potay, parpotay, nwasay parnawasay, damaad aur isi tarhan soutelay betay aur un ke aulaad aur ahfaaz shaamil hain bhai chahay woh haqeeqi hon ya soutelay, ilaqayi hon ya akhyafi, isi mein bhateejay aur bhanjay aur un ki aulaad tamam shaamil hain.

Haqeeqi chacha aur haqeeqi mamu. rzayi baap aur rishta daaron se. nasb se jo rishtay haraam hain doodh pilanay se bhi woh rishtay haraam ho jatay hain.

Aam bachon se jab tak un mein shehwani jazbaat bedaar nah hue hon.

Aisay nokar chakron se jin mein hum bistari ki raghbat nahi jaisay bachay aur boorhay.

Aisi boorhi aurtain jo sun Ayaas ko pahonch chuki hain, agar woh parda nah karna chahain to koi harj nahi hai, haan agar parda karein to behtar hai.

Un ke ilawa tamam namehram rishta daar jaisay:

Dever, jaith, behnoi, chacha zaad bhai, khaala zaad bhai, mamu zaad bhai, shohar ka bhatija, bhanja waghairah se, isi tarhan ghair rishta daar ( saheli ka shohar, shohar ka dost waghairah ) se, heejron se, ghalat qisam ke aawara aur mushtaba muslim o ghair muslim khawateen se parda karna hoga.

 

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*CHEHRE KA PARDA*

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Allah Ta’alaa ka farmaan hai:

 

﴿ يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لِازْوَاجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَاءِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ يُدْنِينَ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِنْ جَلَابِيبِهِنَّ ، ذَلِكَ أَدْنَى أَنْ يُعْرَفُنَ فَلَا يُؤذَيْنَ ، وَكَانَ اللَّهُ غَفُورًا رَحِيمًا ) ( احزاب: 59)

“Aey Nabi! (ﷺ) Aap apni biwion, baityon aur momin aurton se farma dein keh woh apnay chaiharon par apni ghonghat daal liya karein, is se qareeb hai keh woh pehchan li jayen gi aur inhen takleef nahi pohanchai jaye gi aur Allah bakhsnay wala aur meharban hai”.

Is aayat ki tafseer kartay hue Imam Ibn Jarir Tabri Hazrat Abdullah Bin Abbas (رضی اللہ عنہما) ka qoul naqal farmatay hain:

” أمر الله نساء المؤمنين إذا خرجن من بيوتهن في حاجة أن يغطّين وجوههن من فوق الجلابيب ويبدين عينا واحدة ،،( تفسیر طبرى )

 

“Is aayat mein Allah Ta’alaa ne momin aurton ko hukam diya hi keh jab woh kisi zaroorat ki binaa par Apnay gharon se nikleen to apnay chaiharon ko oorhniyon se dhaank lein aur sirf aik aankh zahir karein.

Phir is aayat ki tafseer kartay hue Imam Ibn Jarir Tabri farmatay hain:

 

“لا يشبهن بالإماء في لباسهنّ إذا هنّ خرجن من بيوتهن لحاجتهن ، فكشفن شعورهن ووجوههن ، ولكن يدنين عليهن من جلابيبهن لئلا يعرض فاسق إذا علم أنهنّ حرائر بأذى من قول ،،

Jab woh apnay gharon se kisi zaroorat ki bina par nikleen to libaas mein apnay balon aur chaiharon ko khula rakh kar londion ki waza nah apnaaein, balkay apnay chaihray par ghonghat daal liya karein taakay koi fasik inhen shareef samajh kar un par awazay nah kasay.

(Tafseer Tabri ) be shumaar ahadees mubarikah bhi is baat par dalalat karti hain keh aurat apnay chaihray ka parda karay:

 

Umme-ul-Momineen Hazrat Aayesha (رضی اللہ عنہا) hadees ilafuck ki lambi riwayat mein farmaati hain:

” فخمرت وجهى حين سمعت إسترجاعه ،،

 

Jab main ne un ( Hazrat Safwan Bin Motal Al Salmi رضی اللہ عنہ) ke

إنا لله وإنا إليه راجعون “

 

Parhnay ki awaz suni to apnay chaihray ko oorhani se dhank lia. (بخاری)

عن عائشة رضي الله عنها قالت : ” كان الركبان يمرون بناونحن مع رسول محرمات فإذا جازوا بنا سدلت إحدانا جلبابها من رأسها على وجهها ، فإذا جاوزنا كشفناه ، ( ابو داؤد )

 

Hazrat Aayesha (رضی اللہ عنہا) farmaati hain:

”Sawaron ke qaafley hum par se guzartay aur hum RasooAllah (ﷺ)

Ke sath haalat ahraam mein thin, jab woh hamaray qareeb atay to hum mein se har aik apnay ghunghton ko apnay sir se chaihray par latka lia kartin, aur jis waqt woh guzar jatay hum apnay chaiharon ko khol litin”.

Un ahadees se yeh baat saabit hui keh musalman aurat ke liye zaroori hai keh jab woh apnay ghar se bahar niklay to zaroor chaihra ka parda karay, is liye keh chaihra hi khoubsurti ya badsoorti ka unwan hai, mashhoor islami Askalr, Muhaddas aur Seerat Nigaar, Ustaaz Mohtaram Molana Safi Al Rehman Sahib Mubarakpoori Hifza Allah farmatay hain:

“Chunkay chaihra husan o qabah ka asal miyaar hai aur is par ubharnay walay tasurat dili jazbaat aur ehsasat ki tarjamani kartay hain aur nigah paigham rasani ka kaam anjaam deti hai, balkay Khaftah jazbaat aur ehsasat ko ubharti bhi hai, is liye parday ke hukam ka awleen nishana yeh hai keh chaihra nigahon se oojhal rahay aur nigah se nigah takaraanay nah paye”.

Magar yeh ajeeb sitam zrifi hai keh Ulama ne sab se barh kar isi masla mein ikhtilaaf kya hai aur bohat se purjosh logon ne is be ahteyati ko ain manshaye islam qarar diya hai aur is ke liye ajeeb o ghareeb “dalail” paish kiye hain, chunancha aik daleel yeh paish ki jati hai keh aurat ko haalat namaz mein chaihra aur haath khulla rakhnay ki ijazat hai inhen dhanpnay ka hukam nahi hai, is liye yeh dono parday ke dairay se kharij hain.

Halaankeh agar ghhor kya jaye to yeh bilkul be tukki daleel hai, kyunkay namaz ki sattar poshi aik allag cheez hai aur insanon se parda allag cheez.

Basa auqaat namaz mein aik cheez ke parday ka hukam hai, magar insanon se is ke parday ka hukam nahi, maslan:

“Mard ko namaz mein Kandhay dhanpnay ka hukam hai, magar insanon ke samnay nahi. Bas isi ke baraks yeh bhi ho sakta hai keh namaz mein aik cheez ke parday ka hukam nah ho aur insanon ke samnay ho”.

Dar haqeeqat namaz mein sattar ka hukam kuch aur maqasid rakhta hai aur insanon se parday ka hukam kuch aur hi maqasid rakhta hai, lehaza aik ko doosray par qiyaas nahi kar satkay.

( Paish lafz: “Musalman aurat ka parda aur libaas”

 

Sharai parda dheela dhala aur chaihra, haath aur saaray jism ko chhupanay wala ho, itna chust nah ho keh jism chupnay ke bawajood numaya aur logon ko raghib karnay wala ho, nazrain hataanay wala ho nah keh nazrain jamanay wala, naqsh o nigaar wala nah ho, lekin afsos ke aaj burqay ke naam par jo kala libaas pehna jata hai woh is qader dilkash aur jaazib nazar hota hai keh bakol Sheikh Saadi boorhi par bhi jo un ka gumaan hota hai:

“Basey khush qamtay ke zair chadar bashid choo baz kinny madar madar bashid”

Bohat si khush qaamat aurtain jo chadar mein hoti hain, jab un se chadar hatai jaye to maa ki maa ( nani ) hoti hain ( yani khush rangat chadar ne inhen khush qaamat bana diya isi tarhan aaj kal ka kala burqa bhi apni ifadiyat kho raha hai, haal yeh hai keh burqa pehna hai, khoob soorat stylish, naya design, printed, chamak daar, rangeela, bharkeela aur kuch nahi to is ke oopar sunehri doriyan, khobsorat astikrz, golden button aur khoobsurat dilkash aur deedaa zaib scarf, parda ka parda aur sath hi dawat nzarah.

Baqawl kisay:

“Khoob parda hai keh chilman se lagey baithy hain

Saaf chaptay bhi nahi samnay atay bhi nahi”

Burqa bajaye sattar o hijaab o akhfaye zeenat ke, khud izhaar zeenat ka aik bara waseela ban gaya, adh khula chaihra jis se ghazah-o-kajal saaf jhalak raha hai, chaihray ki tazaeen-o-araish ka poora ihtimaam hai, mehndi se rangay hue muzayyan haath, un tamam hashar samaniyon ke sath, taqwiyat husan ke liye goray chaihray par kala burqa, achay achoon ka taqwa tornay ke liye kaafi hai.

Isi par kisi dil jalay ne kaha tha:

“Nazar atay hain jo baazaaron mein kalay burqay apnay parday mein hi be pardaghi paley burqay naam kal tak tha abhi, jin ka haya daaron mein aaj woh mun kholi hui phirti hain baazaaron mein kalay burqay ko bhi aik fitna taaza kahiye is ko parda nahi parday ka janaza kahiye”

Walidain ke liye zaroori hai keh woh apni bachiyon ko sakhti se parda ka paband banaaein, inhen khushbu laga kar chalnay, looch daar, sheereen aawaz se baat karnay, paon ki jhankaar aur dilkash aadaon se rokain, sharai hijaab ki khoobiyan un ke samnay bayan karein aur inhen yeh batlaein keh jab tak woh Mohammad RasoolAllah (ﷺ) ki talemaat par amal nahi karein gi is waqt tak sahih maeno mein musalman bhi nahi banein gi.

 

REFERENCE:

Book: Aulaad ki islami Tarbiyat

Taaleef: “Muhammad Anwar Muhammad Qasim Al Salfi”