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03. AWSAAF-E-ZAUJAIN [ The Qualities of the Bride  and the Bridegroom]

Awsaaf-e-zaujain aur shaadi kay inteqaab may dhiyaan rakhne ki cheezein

 

 

Shareek-e-hayaat inteqaab karne kay chand rehnuma usool :

 

  1. Deendaar.
         (Sahih Bukhari:5090)

 

  1. Acche maahol ka parwardah.
  2. Sanjeedah.
  3. Maqsad-e-hayaat say waakhif.
  4. Deeni ilm ka shaghaf.
  5. Maali aur izdiwaaji zimedaariyon ka ehsaas.
  6. Shaadi say pehle dekhna.

 

        (Surah Nisa: 3)

 

  1. Tayyiboon aur tayyibaat rahna, khabeesoon aur khabeesat say bachna.
  2. Istikaara
  3. Mashwarah.
  4. Duaa.
  5. Mo’tadil jaanch padtaal.
  6. Tawakkul ma’a asbaab.
  7. Wadood aur walood ladki
(khaandaan say pata chalta hai kay wafa shi’aar aur sahib-e-aulaad hone kay laiq hai ya nahi).
(Classed as Sahih by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 1784)

 

15.Aib aur muhlik beemariyon ko na chupaye.

 

 

  1. Maslihat ko apnaye, shaukh kay peeche na jaaye.
  2. Mashwarah dene wale amaanat ka muzahera karein.
  3. Jahan gheebat jaaiz hai usmay say aik hai nikaah kay ahem mashware par har acchi ya buri baat bata dein taake faisla sonch samajh kar kiya jaa sake, baad may nikaah tootne say behtar hai pehle hi (clarity) ajaaye. (لًوَۡ ُۡوا ق ُۡول ق سِدۡي ًدا –

 

(qooloo qawlan-sadeedaa)

 

  1. Salaahiyyat aur saalihiyyat.
  2. Choton par shafaqqat aur badon ka ehteraam karne wale.
  3. Deen kay liye qurbaaniyan dene wale.
  4. Ek dusre ka khayaal rakhne wale.
  5. Ghareeb aur zaroorat mand ka khayaal rakhne wale.
  6. Aquedah sahiha, shirk wa bidaat say paak, amaal-e-saaleh kay paikar, bad akhlaaqi aur buri aadat say paak.

 

 (صلى الله عليه وسلم) :

إذا صلت المرأة خمسها، وصامت شهرها، 

وحفظت فرجها، وأطاعت زوجها قيل لها: 

ادخلي الجنة من أي أبواب الجنة شئت

(ابن حبان : 4163 ، صحیح الجامع : 660)

 

Tarjamah : “Jab aurat paanch 

namazein adaa kare, aur ramazaan kay roze rakhe aur apni sharm-gaah ki hifazat kare, aur apne khaawind ki ita’at kare to usse kaha jaaega: 

Tum Jannat kay jis darwaaze say bhi chaho Jannat may daakhil ho jao.” 

 

(Ibn Hibbaan: 4163, Sahih al-Jaami’: 660)

 

  1. Ilm, amal, dawat wa islaah aur sabar kay haamil.
  2. Ladka nafqa, suknah, kiswah, aur maali zimmedariyan uthane kay qaabil ho.
  3. Laa tuzaarruhunna (تضاروهن), kisi bhi qism ka zarar na pahunchaye Shariat kay etebaar say, koi gambheer aib ko chupakar zarar may daalna jaise na mardaangi wagairah. Mutawwal kutub ya ulama-e-raasikheen say muraja’ah karein.

 

 

REFERNCE:
BOOK: “NIKAH SE MUTALIQ AHEM MALOOMAT”
BY: SHEIKH ARSHAD BASHEER UMARI MADANI
Shadi Ke Liye Ladke Ya Ladki Mein Yeh Sifaat Zarur Dekhe | Islam Ka Khandaani Nizaam 03 | Alimuddin

The Qualities of the Bride  and the Bridegroom

1. Religious.

(Sahih Bukhari:5090)

2. Nurtured in a good environment.

3. Serious.

4. Aware of the purpose of life.

5. Fond of gaining Islamic knowledge.

6. He has sense of responsibility regarding financial and marital duties.

7. Looking him/her before the marriage.

(Surah Nisa: 03)

8. Chastity.

9. Istikhaarah.

10. Sincere Counsel.

11. Supplication.

12. Moderate enquiry.

13. Having reliance on Allaah along with means.

14. “Marry those who are loving  and fertile, for I will be proud  of your great numbers before  the other nations.”

(Classed as Sahih by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel, 1784)

15. Shouldn’t hide defects and  harmful diseases.

16. Should accept expediency, should not run after personal  interests.

17. One should give a sincere counsel.

18. Backbiting is allowed during  the enquiry of the Nikaah. One must verbalize all the affairs so that the final decision can be clearly based upon evidences.

19. Eligible with skills, talent and Pious.

20. Merciful to the youngsters and respectful towards the elders.

21. The one who sacrifices for religion.

22. The one who takes care of  others.

23. The one who takes care of  poor and needy people.

24. The one who is free from polytheism, innovations and evil character, he/she must possess a sound Islamic creed and perform righteous deeds and a good character.

25. In another Hadith, the  Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said;

إذا صلت المرأة خمسها، وصامت شهرها، 
وحفظت فرجها، وأطاعت زوجها قيل لها: 
ادخلي الجنة من أي أبواب الجنة شئت
ابن حبان:   4163، صحیح الجامع:660

“When a woman is punctual on her five daily Salaah and fasts for the month of Ramadaan and safeguards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be said to her (on the day of Judgment): Enter through whichever door of Paradise you wish.” 

(Musnad Ahmed, Hadith: 1661, Narrated by Abdurrahman bin Awf)

26.Those who have faith, do good, and urge each other to the truth, and urge each other to perseverance.

27. The man should be able to carry out the financial responsibilities such as providing food, shelter, clothing etc. to the woman.

28.  تضاروهن ,  Laa tuzaarruhunna 

Should not harm anyone or should not inflict anyone with harm by hiding defects like impotency.

REFERENCE:
BOOK: “CRUCIAL INFORMATION RELATED TO NIKAH”
BY: SHEIKH ARSHAD BASHEER UMARI MADANI
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