Ghalat Sohbat

Buri sohbat aik aisi bimaari hai jis mein achay achaon ki olaad bigad jaati hai, Hazrat Nooh (علیہ السلام) Allah Ta’ala kay ul-ul-a’zm paighambar thay, naik terbiyat kay baawajood buri sohbat ka shikaar ho kar in ka larka Kinaa’n Kaafir ho gaya aur tofaan-e-Nooh mein maara gaya, is ka sabab Hazrat Shaikh Saadi (رحمه الله) buri sohbat hi qaraar daitay hue farmaatey hain:

 

نبوت خاندانش گم کرد پسر نوح با بداں بنشست پئے نیکاں گرفت و مردم شد سگ اصحاب کہف روزے چند

 

Y’ani Nooh (علیہ السلام) kay baitay nay buron ki sohbat ikhtiyaar ki, jis ki wajah say apnay khaandaan ki nabuw’wat ko ganwa baitha, is liye keh Allah Ta’ala ka ye dastoor raha hai keh paigambaron ki naik olaad ko bhi nabuw’wat say sarfaraaz farmaatey hain, jab keh Asahaab-e-Kahaf ka kutta chand din naik loogon ki sohbat mein raha jis ki wajah say wo in naik logon kay saath hi gina jaanay laga, Allah Ta’ala nay qayaamat tak kay liye apnay oliya kay saath is jaanwar ka tazkirah bhi Quraan Majeed mein mehfooz kar diya:

 

﴿ سَيَقُولُونَ ثَلثَةٌ رابِعُهُمْ كَلْبُهُم وَيَقُولُونَ خَمْسَةٌ سَادِسُهُمْ كَلْبُهُمْ رَحَمَاء بِالْغَيْبِ : وَيَقُولُونَ سَبْعَةٌ وَّثَامِنُهُمْ كَلْبُهُمْ ) ( کہف : 22)

 

Tarjumah:

“Kuch loog kahain gay keh wo teen(3) thay aur chotha (4) in ka kutta tha, kuch doosaray kahain gay keh wo paanch (5) thay aur chatta (6) un ka kutta, ye sab be-tuki baatain banaatay hain, kuch aur kahtay hain keh wo saat (7) thay aur aathwan (8) un ka kuta”.

Issi liye Islaam nay shar pasand afraad ki sohbat say baar baar mana’a kiya hai, is liye keh is say insaan rah-e-hidaayat say bhatak jaata hai aur hamesha kay liye dozakhi ban jaata hai, Quraan Majeed nay aiysay bad naseeb afraad ka tazkirah kiya hai jo qayaamat kay din apnay buray yaaron aur dooston ko yaad kar kay Allah Ta’ala say mutaalbah karain gay keh wo pal bhar kay liye in loogon ko dikha dain jinhon nay inhain duniya mein rah-e-haq say bhatka diya, taakay wo inhain buri tarhan roond dain:

 

: ﴿ وَ قَالَ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا رَبَّنَا آرِنَا الَّذِيْنِ أَضَلُّنَا مِنَ الْجِنِّ وَالْإِنسِ نَجْعَلَهُمَا تَحْتَ أَقْدَامِنَا لِيَكُونَا مِنَ الأسْفَلِينَ ﴾ (فصلت : 29)

 

Aur Kaafir kaheyn gain: Aey hamaaray Rab! Hamain jinnon aur insaanon kay wo donon fareeq dikha, jinhon nay hamain ghumrah kiya taakay ham inhain apnay qadmon talay daal dain taakay wo jahannum mein sab say neechay (sakht azaab mein) ho jayen.

Buray doost maidaan-e-mahshar mein aik doosaray kay dushman ho jayen gay.

 

Farmaan-e-baari Ta’ala hai:

 

﴿ الْأَخِلَّاهُ يَوْمَئِذٍ بَعْضُهُمْ لِبَعْضٍ عَدُوِّالَّا الْمُتَّقِينَ ﴾ ( زخرف :67)

 

Is din gehray dost bhi aik doosaray kay dushman ban jaen gay siwaaye parhaizgaaron kay.

 

Issi liye Rasool Ullah (ﷺ) nay irshaad farmaaya:

 

: ” المرء على دين خليله ، فلينظر أحدكم من يخالل ، ترندی

 

Aadmi apnay dost kay Deen par hota hai, is liye aadmi ko ghor kar leina chahiye keh wo kis say dosti kar raha hai. Issi liye Hazrat Ali Bin Abi Taalib (رضی اللہ عنہا) nay farmaaya:

 

عن المرء لا تسئل وسئل عن قرينه فكل قرين بالمقارن يقتدى

Agar tum kissi shakhas kay aa’daat-o-atwaar kay muta’lliq maloomaat haasil karna chaaho to is kay nahi balkay is kay yaaron doston kay muta’lliq maloomaat faraaham karo, is liye keh har shakhas apnay hi zarf kay mutaabiq yaar banaata hai.

Aap (ﷺ) nay achi aur buri sohbat ko aik lateef misaal say waazeh farmaaya:

 

مثل الجليس الصالح والجليس السوء كمثل حامل المسك ونافخ الكير ، فأما حامل المسك أن يحذيك ، أو تشترى منه ، أو تجد منه ريحا طيبة . ونافخ الكير فإما أن يحرق ثيابك ، أو تجد منه ريحا منتنة ،، ( متفق علیہ )

 

Achay saathi aur buray saathi ki misaal mushk uthaaye hue shakhas aur bhatti dhun’nay waalay lohaar ki tarhan hai. Mushak waala shakhas ya to khud hi mushak day ga, ya tum is say khareedo gay, agar ye bhi na ho to is ki itar baizi say tumhaari mashaam mua’ttar ho gi, jab keh bhatti dhun’nay waala tumhaaray kapaday jala day ga, ya is ki badboo tumhain zarar (naak aur kapadon mein) mehsoos ho gi.

Waalidain oolaad say milnay julnay waalay afraad par gehri nigaah rakhain, aur inhain muhallah, school, masjid aur collage waghaira mein achay larkon say dosti karnay ki targheeb dain, buri sohbat kay nuqsaanaat say aagaah krain agar inhain mehsoos ho keh bachay ghalat afraad ki sohbat ka shikaar ho rahain hain, fouri iqdaam kartay hue inhain ghalat suhbat say bacha lain.

 

REFERENCE:

Book: Aulaad ki islami Tarbiyat

Taaleef: “Muhammad Anwar Muhammad Qasim Al Salfi”