12. NIKAAH MEIN TAKHEER KI WUJOOHAAT [ The Reasons for delay in the Marriage]
Nikaah may taakheer ki wujoohaat
1. Mehr ki raqam ka bahut ziyada hona.
2. Ghair shari rasm o riwaaj.
3. Naujawaanon ki be-raah rawi.
4. Naujawaano ka ghair zimme darana kirdaar.
5. Jahez ki lanat.
6. Bejaa rasm wa riwaaj ki kasrat, is par walaa wa baraa ki had tak ihteraam.
7. Ladki aur ladke ki shaadi ghair maqool wujoohaat ki buniyaad par taalna jaise:
A. Ladke ki abhi umar hi kya hai?
B. Hajj ke baad.
C. Falan ki shaadi kay baad.
D. Aala naukri.
E. Aala taleem.
F. Aala maqaam wa martaba kay baad.
8. Ghair haqeeqi tasawwuraat wa takhayyulaat, ladka aur ladki kay mutabiq joda nahi milta kyun kay ghalat tasawwuraat bitha lete hain ya ghalat mi’yaraat.
9. Ladka ladki ko aisi shaadi kay liye zabardasti karna jahan wo raazi nahi nateeje may shaadi say hi karaahat.
10. Sharton aur maang ki kasrat.
11. Bahut zayda tahqeeq wa tafteesh aur kasrat-e-sawaalaat.
12. Bila wajah shakki aur wahami mijaaz.
13. Shubhaat wa shahawaat ki kasrat.
14. Bhatke huwe ya barbaad qaumoun ki mushaabahat.
15. Khayaali pulaaw ya tasawwuraati khadshaat.
16. Ghair maaqool wa ghair haqeeqi dar ya tadbeer.
17. Susti wa kaaheli aur rozi ki talaash may kama haqqahu mehnat na karna ya ghair haqeeqi Khayaalat-e-rizq.
18. Berozgaari aur susti wa kaaheli ka nateeja.
19. Mehangi dawatein aur shadiyan.
20. Duaa aur ibaadat ki kami say zindagi may rukaawaton ki kasrat.
21. Gunahon ki kasrat say halaal may dil nahi lagta.
22. Haraam may shaghaf say halaal ka maza jaata rahta hai.
23. Halaal raaston ko chod kar ghair fitri wa ghair shrai tareeqe.
24. Aadaat sayyiah wa sohbat-e-sayyiah ka nateeja.
25. Huqooq-ul- Allaah wa Huqooqul-ibaad ki ahmiyat ko na samjhna.
26. Nisf deen ki ahmiyat ko na samajhna.
27. Muashre ki be hisi aur fahaashiyat.
28. Acche bure ki tameez kho dena.
29. Burai ko fashion aur acchai ko daqyanusiyat samajhna.
30. Tawheed, risaalat aur aakhirat kay ilm say ghaflat.
REFERNCE:
BOOK: “NIKAH SE MUTALIQ AHEM MALOOMAT”
BY: SHEIKH ARSHAD BASHEER UMARI MADANI
The Reasons for delay in the Marriage
1. The huge price of dowry. (Mahr)
2. Non-Shariah customs and practices.
3. The misguidance of youth.
4. The irresponsible behaviour of youth.
5. The case of Dowry.
6. Useless customary practices.
7. Due to an irrational reason such as:
A. What is the age of boy? He is still small?
B. After performing hajj?
C. After someone’s marriage?
D. After getting job?
E. After higher education?
F. After gaining a rich status in the society.
8. Due to false imaginations and thoughts regarding the boy and the girl.
9. Forcing the boy or girl into a marriage proposal. In result, they will dislike the invitation of marriage.
10. The excessive conditions and demands.
11. Excessive scrutiny and queries.
12. Doubting without reason.
13. Excessive doubts and desires.
14. Resembling misguided communities.
15. Imaginary fears.
16. Irrational plans.
17. Laziness and incompetency in seeking provision.
18. Unemployment and the consequences of laziness.
19. Expensive weddings and feasts.
20. The obstacles such as trials in life due to reduction of worship and supplications.
21. Heart doesn’t tends towards halal due to excessive sins.
22. Heart doesn’t tends to find sweetness in halal due to attachment with wrong methods.
23. Abandoning the halal way and adopting the unnatural and anti Shariah methods.
24. Bad conquests of bad acquaintance.
25. Not comprehending the importance of the rights of Allaah and the rights of the people.
26. Not understanding the importance of the half of the faith.
27. Shamelessness which is prevalent in the society.
28. Not differentiating between good and the evil.
29. Deeming ‘evil’ as fashion and ‘good’ as backward.
30. The negligence of seeking knowledge of Monotheism, Prophethood and the Resurrection.
REFERENCE:
BOOK: “CRUCIAL INFORMATION RELATED TO NIKAH”
BY: SHEIKH ARSHAD BASHEER UMARI MADANI