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16. NIKAAH KI RAAT KAY AADAAB [The Etiquettes of Wedding Night]

Nikaah ki raat kay aadaab

 

1. Biwi ko koi tohfa dena.

(Irwa al-Ghaleel: 1601)

 

2. Biwi ki dil joyi kay liye kuch khaane ko pesh karna khusoosan doodh.

(Ahmad: 27591)

 

3. Biwi kay sir par haath rakh kar duaa-e-barkat karna:

 

اللهم إني أسألك خيرها وخير ما جبلتها عليه وأعوذ بك من شرها ومن شر ما جبلتها عليه

 

Allahumma inni as-aluka khairaha va khaira maa jabaltaha alaihi va a’oozu bika min sharriha va min sharri maa jabaltaha alaihi.

 

Tarjamah: “Aye Allaah! Mai tujhse iski bhalaai aur iski jibillat ki bhalai ka khwaastgaar hun, Aye Allaah! Iske shar aur iski jibillat kay shar say teri panaah maangta hun”.

(Abu Dawood: 2160)

 

4. Dono ka ba jamat do rakaat namaz ada karna (aurat peeche rahe aur shauhar aage).

(Musannaf Ibn Abi Shaiba: 17156)

 

5. Jimaa kay waqt duaa karna:

اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا‏.

 

Bismillahi, allahumma jannibnash shaitaan, va jannibish shaitaan maa razaqtana.

 

Tarjamah: “Allaah kay naam kay saath shuroo karta hun. Aye Al laah! Hamein shaitaan say bacha aur shaitaan ko us cheez say door rakh jo tu (is jimaa kay nateeje may) hume ata farmaae”.

(Bukhari: 141)

Yeh duaa padhne kay baad (jimaa karne say) miyan biwi ko jo aulaad milegi use shaitaan nuqsaan nahi pahuncha sakta.

In sha Allaah.

 

6. Dubarah jimaa karne say pehle wuzoo karna.

7. Jimaa kay baad ghusl ya wuzoo karke sona.

 (Aadaab al-zifaaf lil-Albani)

 

Ghusl-e-janaabat ka tareeqa Mandarje (Mandarje) zail hai

(Muslim: 332)

 

  • Haataun ko dho kar apni sharm gaah aur jahan najaasat lagi ho use dhoye.
  • Phir mukammal wuzoo kare.
  • Paaon wuzoo kay aakhir may dhona ya ghusl kay aakhir may, dono tarah jaaiz hai.
  • Phir teen martaba chullu bharkar sar mein paani daale aur sar ko male hatta ke balon ki jadein tar ho jaaye.
  • Auraton kay liye zaroori nahi kay woh ghusl-e-janaabat kay liye apne baal kholein. Albatta haiz wa nifaas kay ghusl kay liye sar kay baal kholna zaroori hai.
  • Phir apne jism ki daayein jaanib aur phir baayein jaanib paani bahaae.

 

 

REFERENCE:
BOOK: “NIKAH SE MUTALIQ AHEM MALOOMAT”
BY: SHEIKH ARSHAD BASHEER UMARI MADANI

The Etiquettes of Wedding Night

 

1. Gifting the bride.

(Irwa ul Ghaleel: 1601)

 

2. Presenting some food to the bride in order to elate her especially milk.

(Musnad Ahmed: 27591)

 

3. One should place his hand on the head of his wife and should supplicate with the following words;

 

اللهم إني أسألك خيرها وخير ما جبلتها عليه وأعوذ بك من شرها ومن شر ما جبلتها عليه

 

‘Allaah umma inni as’aluka khairaha wa khaira ma jabaltaha alaihi, wa a’udhu bika min sharriha wa sharri ma jabaltaha alaihi.

 

(O Allaah, I ask You for the goodness within her and the goodness that You have made her inclined towards, and I seek refuge with You from the evil within her and the evil that You have made her inclined towards).’

 

(Sunan Abu Dawood: 2160)

 

4. Praying two units of supererogatory prayer together.

(Musannaf Ibne Abee Shaybah: 17156)

 

5. Supplicating before intimacy.

اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا‏.

 

“Bismillaah, allaahumma jannibnash-shaytaana wa jannib-ash-shaytaana maa razaqtana”.

 

(In the Name of Allaah, O Allaah! Shield us from Satan and keep him away from us and from what You [may] bestow upon us. [i.e. children])

(Sahih Bukhari: 141)

 

This opening invocation is useful in that if Allaah blesses the husband and the wife with a child, this child will not be harmed by Satan.

 

6. Performing ablution before second intercourse after first intercourse.

 

7. One should perform ablution or ghusl before sleeping.

(Adaabudh Dhifaaf lil Albani).

 

8. The method of ghusl.

 

1. Form the intention in the heart to purify oneself from major impurity: janaabah (impurity following sexual discharge), menses or nifaas (postpartum bleeding).

2. Then say Bismillah and wash the hands three times, then wash any dirt from the private part.

3. Then do wudoo’ as for prayer, a complete wudoo’.

4. Then pour water over the head three times, and rub the hair so that the water reaches the roots of the hair.

5. Then wash the body, making sure that the water reaches all parts, starting with the right side of the body and then the left, and rubbing it with the hands so that the water reaches the entire body. 

It is not obligatory upon the women to open their hairs. However, in order to get free from impurities like menstrual blood and post birth blood it is obligatory open the hairs as well.

 

 

REFERENCE:
BOOK: “CRUCIAL INFORMATION RELATED TO NIKAH”
BY: SHEIKH ARSHAD BASHEER UMARI MADANI
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