17. VALIMAH KI DAWAT [The Feast of Valimah]
Valima ki dawat
1. Valima karna waajib hai.
(Bukhari: 5167, Shaik Ibn Baaz)
2. Valima ki dawat qabool karna waajib hai illa yeh kay koi uzr-e-sharai ya majboori ho.
(Bukhari: 5173)
3. Bila wajah valima ki dawat qabool na karna masiyat hai.
(Bukhari: 5177)
4. Valima may ghareebon aur muhtaajon ko bhi daawat deni chahiye.
(Muslim: 1432)
5. Valima fauran aqd-e-nikaah kay baad jimaa se pehle ya jimaa kay baad kiya jaa sakta hai (Shaik Saaleh Fawzaan), lekin khalwat saheeha ke baad valima kar liya jaaye to ikhtelaaf say baahar nikal jaate hai aur yeh mustahab hai.
(Safi ur Rahman Mubaarakpuri Sharah Bulooghul Maraam)
6. Jin sooraton may dawat-e-valima qabool nahi kiya jaa sakta:
Valima ki dawat may munkaraat yane gaana, bajaana aur raqs wagairah ka intezaam ho.
REFERENCE:
BOOK: “NIKAH SE MUTALIQ AHEM MALOOMAT”
BY: SHEIKH ARSHAD BASHEER UMARI MADANI
The Feast Of Valimah
1. It is obligatory to perform Valimah.
(Sahih Bukhari: 5167; Shaykh bin Baaz)
2. It is obligatory to accept the invitation of Valimah except there is a valid excuse.
(Sahih Bukhari: 5173)
3. It is an act of disobedience to reject the invitation of Valimah.
(Sahih Bukhari: 5177)
4. One should also invite the poor and needy to Valimah.
(Sahih Muslim: 1432)
5. It is lawful to give Valimah on the same day before khalwa Sahiha (meeting the spouse) on the day of Nikaah.
(al-Mulakhkhas al-Fiqhi, 2/364: Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan)
Shaykh Safiur Rahman Mubarakpuri said in his explanation of Bulughul Maraam:
“Valimah (marriage feast) should be held after khalwah Sahiha (when husband meets his wife and spends some time with her in closed premises).
Note: It is not obligatory to have intercourse on the first night of marriage.”
6. The valid excuses for not accepting the Valimahh are a singing, dancing etc. (in the Valimahh).
REFERENCE:
BOOK: “CRUCIAL INFORMATION RELATED TO NIKAH”
BY: SHEIKH ARSHAD BASHEER UMARI MADANI